Draconic Summit Autumn 2022 - mature-draconic-experiences

I’ll start a conversation here. Both my asexuality and my draconity effect my sex drive and when I wish to engage in “fun” activities. I do have sex with a certain someone sometimes, however it’s incredibly rare and she finds herself very frustrated with my being sometimes, especially since I don’t have any reaction to sexual advances of any kind, unless there’s something that catches my eye during said advance (other than Luunaathh’sstrreiii of course).

My asexuality confuses me greatly tbh. I'm very unlikely to do anything at all in the physical sense but I do feel attraction when it comes to the theory of it. Like if I was given the idea of an action, I'd be very into it. Same with people. However, you'd give me the chance to act on it and suddenly all desire vanishes. I'm like that dog meme. No touch, only fantasy.

2:02 am

Though I can act on anything non physical like creating art can be fun, along with nsfw text roleplay (edited)

I’m going to talk a bit about how my draconity effects my sex drive in the 18+ draconic discussion panel, so I won’t talk about such just yet!

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No spoilers xD

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I will say though, (I won’t talk about this in my panel), that upon home I’m very picky about how my partners approach my being in any romantic or sexual way. If they do even one thing wrong I’m like “oh no you don’t” XD (edited)

I just now realized that my recurring attraction to fictional characters (especially male) with fire powers is probably a draconic thing lmao

5:48 am

This has happened at least four times, probably more

Oh hecc. You made me do a think lol Y'know the old saying that we seek out someone for a mate who reminds us of our mother/father? My adoptive father was/is (he's a spirit and hangs out on the astral now) a fire dragon... and I'm in a relationship with my Soulbond who has fire powers...

huh, makes me wonder. but I don’t have enough data to go off of. and all past and present relationships are all of different species, I mean, if we call them all alterhuman. The vampire is more just aesthetics but anyways what I do find out is that I do have attraction towards bonds with people that are more my opposite in color. Complimentary if you will. Blues and purples I have the most attraction to. This is inconsistent, but has been a theme. Like two of my partners are blue in colors, my crush is purple and teal green respectively.

7:26 am

I do not like people with fire attribute. If anything, water makes more sense. plus if we are talking about draconity, fire only make sense in a typical western fashion. eastern dragons usually are tied with water, and some with various other elements.

7:27 am

draconic shouldn’t equate to fire

Yeah that's fair, it's a big deal for my species though

7:36 am

My attraction to real people tends to be different, focusing more on colorful aesthetics (not to mention that I'm strictly a lesbian when it comes to actual relationships), but for fictional characters my taste is very much Men Who Can Make A Lot Of Fire

yeah my taste in irl people is a lot softer and kinder than my taste in fictional people aiskdkf

I think, power, feral, and ferociousness is what would attract me in a fictional character setting. If going by me when I go

at certain moments like a character snaring like a beast, super hot, or a character that is strength hmm, even less data on this. demi make it so that I need bonds to feel attraction, but then I do have appreciation towards certain traits

i think you can like certain traits and still not want to sleep with someone without a bond. we all have tastes

true that

I am very much the same. I'm deeply demisexual and only could ever sleep with someone in nest I deeply love and trust in each and every way, and everything beyond warm winghugs with close friends hugs goes for that. I have to say I am only attracted towards dragons, only dragonkins. Just already talking with one, writing you feel this completely unique, breathtaking feeling no words in the world can ever describe, the feeling I never had with any other being, already when we have never met IRL. The feeling of belonging and mutual understanding, shared feelings... When meeting them then finally IRL, I instantly felt them nearby, without having seen any picture of them before I walked straight towards them, wrapped my fins around, deeply purrringly hugging and laying my snout against their own...

9:21 am

Meeting other dragonkins always was for me something so special, and the most wonderful moment of my life. That deep trust, this feeling of knowing what the other wants and thinks without any word, shared thoughts made each and every second of these moments so wonderful, never a misunderstanding and everyone caring about everyone taking part, taking care that noone drops out and is left behind or feels not cared about. What is for me very special too is that you can "feel" each others real form, see it when you close your eyes.... At least we did back then, it was.... breathtaking and so magical. And very much the same then once again, to come what I originally wanted to say here, is in nest when getting ever closer to your partner.... For me the sexual act, the act of bonding is something to get closer to each other, to show the deepest trust, letting each others souls and spirits coil.... It's never just something to have fun with each other, but rather an act of mutual, deepest endless love and passion, to deepen the relationship as you create an everlasting bond, sometimes for eternity..... Mating with other dragons there is therefore far different what I heard of what humans do, I can't compare as I only ever had such a breathtakingly beautiful, deeply spiritual and passionate, wild and feral human with a dragonkin, though it let my inner feral self break free, the feeling of our human host body vanished and we only felt our true forms, tails tightly coiling and wrapping around each other, warm scales sliding along each others and pressing tightly against as our wings, fins and claws wrapped around each other and gripped deeply into our scales as we slowly got lost ever more in each other... Feeling the spiritual connection in this passionate, tender moment developing into something that seemingly will last until eternity....

9:21 am

I think there aren't enough words to ever say how wonderful it was, and how much we dreamed away into feeling our very true selves and bodies...

9:25 am

I think most important is always the mutual understanding and deepest trust into each other, no matter what you do or where you are. When you have that, it will always be the most wonderful experience and moment you can ever have... Without such trust, without opening up to each other and let the other touch your soul, there can barely be any draconic experience and any of such feelings I described with mutual dragonkins...

9:28 am

Such trust needs to be build up over time, it nearly never comes instantly and you should always be careful. It takes a long time, months, rather years until you deeply know each other in each and every way, at least for me it does until I trust someone so deeply to let them into my heart and touch my soul...

Drakmanka

Oh hecc. You made me do a think lol Y'know the old saying that we seek out someone for a mate who reminds us of our mother/father? My adoptive father was/is (he's a spirit and hangs out on the astral now) a fire dragon... and I'm in a relationship with my Soulbond who has fire powers...

Ahhh the astral is a wonderful place

I haven't quite gotten there yet via out of body, but I am trying to learn! As for sexuality, it's very odd for me and is a bit of a dual sided coin. On my human side I am cis demi and could only truly physically be with someone that shares my soul. As I am also married to a beautifully spiritual person this is no problem and fully fulfilled. However my draconic side seems to always want something more, more mates, more experiences, even eggs... not that I raise them, but just the experience of reproducing. I like to believe my dragon-self is herm/intersex, but in truth it was probably a mix of both female and male past-dragon-lives that retained memories over time.

Sexuality and nonhumanity is.. weird fjdkg I wouldn't say that I actually am attracted to dragons, because it still doesn't feel quite the same as how allo people describe attraction, but I understand what makes a dragon attractive (by my species's standards, anyway :P) far more intuitively than I understand what makes a human attractive, if that makes sense? ~~and every so often I do have A Moment of seeing a dragon and going "oh, I'd let that Do Things to me" lmao~~ Dragon Hindbrain has opinions about draconic beauty standards and unfortunately lmao

I don’t feel attraction to anyone other than Luunaathh’sstrreiii. Initially, I didn’t feel any sexual attraction towards her at all, though I did feel affection. It was something that grew on my being over time, though only as I grew to love and trust her more and more.

I usually describe myself as grey ace because I’m not attracted to humans. I couldn’t really tell you why my mate (who is a vampire) is the one exception. But aside from them I’m just not into primates. I’m a dragon and what I’m attracted to doesn’t exist in this world

Norwaro

Meeting other dragonkins always was for me something so special, and the most wonderful moment of my life. That deep trust, this feeling of knowing what the other wants and thinks without any word, shared thoughts made each and every second of these moments so wonderful, never a misunderstanding and everyone caring about everyone taking part, taking care that noone drops out and is left behind or feels not cared about. What is for me very special too is that you can "feel" each others real form, see it when you close your eyes.... At least we did back then, it was.... breathtaking and so magical. And very much the same then once again, to come what I originally wanted to say here, is in nest when getting ever closer to your partner.... For me the sexual act, the act of bonding is something to get closer to each other, to show the deepest trust, letting each others souls and spirits coil.... It's never just something to have fun with each other, but rather an act of mutual, deepest endless love and passion, to deepen the relationship as you create an everlasting bond, sometimes for eternity..... Mating with other dragons there is therefore far different what I heard of what humans do, I can't compare as I only ever had such a breathtakingly beautiful, deeply spiritual and passionate, wild and feral human with a dragonkin, though it let my inner feral self break free, the feeling of our human host body vanished and we only felt our true forms, tails tightly coiling and wrapping around each other, warm scales sliding along each others and pressing tightly against as our wings, fins and claws wrapped around each other and gripped deeply into our scales as we slowly got lost ever more in each other... Feeling the spiritual connection in this passionate, tender moment developing into something that seemingly will last until eternity....

It is a remarkable description in such that the act breaks the limits of the material body, offering a pathway towards a more spiritual connectedness, a fusing of two beings at a level beyond the physical. I've heard that before; I think that humans who are really in love can experience that, too. I'm personally asexual so I'm not interested in that specific pathway, but the experience is available to me through other means. The connection you describe sounds very similar to what I experience as "all-connectedness" or "non-duality" - which is fusing with all there is, the whole universe. Hence, the experience might not depend on the sexual act as is, but could be more related to the feeling of the True Self as an all-connected entity.

Amber

It is a remarkable description in such that the act breaks the limits of the material body, offering a pathway towards a more spiritual connectedness, a fusing of two beings at a level beyond the physical. I've heard that before; I think that humans who are really in love can experience that, too. I'm personally asexual so I'm not interested in that specific pathway, but the experience is available to me through other means. The connection you describe sounds very similar to what I experience as "all-connectedness" or "non-duality" - which is fusing with all there is, the whole universe. Hence, the experience might not depend on the sexual act as is, but could be more related to the feeling of the True Self as an all-connected entity.

Very well said and more than true. I experience that deep connections with other dragons too, day by day, second by second. There aren't enough words to ever describe it properly...

Yep, words can't properly catch it. When it comes to physical reproduction, I neither have any interest in it nor truly understand why humans put so much into it. I feel like an endless consciousness that is all-connected.. only inhabiting this body for a while. No need to reproduce.

And again very true and can just agree with you there

DoveWithScales

I usually describe myself as grey ace because I’m not attracted to humans. I couldn’t really tell you why my mate (who is a vampire) is the one exception. But aside from them I’m just not into primates. I’m a dragon and what I’m attracted to doesn’t exist in this world

Huh, I've never thought about it like that but I'm much the same. Though, I was Asexual and Aromantic as a dragon too. I can certainly appreciate the aesthetic beauty of humans, and of course dragons. I do find it interesting that my romantic orientation changed slightly as a human. I'm now grayromantic/Demi, and my partner is, though not human, humanoid.

I've been experiencing a kind of heat lately as well as other sexual instincts because of my dragonic flicker. But I never had that before, or any of the other instincts relating to it, yet it is way stronger than any flicker I have ever had, so I am kinda taking it as a sign that it is more than just a flicker.